How To Get Your Ex Back

Do you really want to get your ex back? Ever seen people frantically trying to fix their mistakes, only to realize eventually that they are only going to make the situation worse?

Well, the greatest mistake is to try to patch up with your ex immediately after the breakup. Often, our emotions and behavior will drive our ex even further away. And here is why…

Right after a breakup, your body is suffering from a great deal of emotional stress. It’s like a rug being yanked out from underneath you and you begin to panic. You become irrational and will base your actions solely on your instincts. Act first and think afterwards; you’ll do whatever comes to mind to save your relationship and this is really dangerous!

In the most critical of situations, this built-in self-defense mechanism becomes our so-called survival instincts. But when it comes to relationships, our instincts usually lead us in the wrong direction. The state of extreme panic and desperation – because you realize that you can lose the love of your life – fills you with an extreme need to fix the problem immediately at any cost. This leads you to commit stupid mistakes and regret later.

Here are TOP SEVEN MISTAKES that you should avoid if you still want to get your ex back!

1 - Acting Desperate

Are you doing things like begging your ex for forgiveness, telling your ex how much you need her or saying that you cannot live without him? All these only make you appear desperate and needy. For a start, my advice to you is that you need to retain your dignity and self-respect. This will not only help you to get back your ex but will also make you feel better about yourself.

2 - Spreading Lies About Your Ex

You will ruin any chance you have of getting your ex back together again with this one. Put the shoe on the other foot and think how you would cope with your ex telling everyone lies about you. I certainly wouldn’t like it either. If that would have happened to me, there’s no way I’m getting back with my ex.

3 – Stalking Your Ex

We shouldn’t even have to say anything about stalking but just in case we do. Best case scenario: You look like a sad desperate lonely person and they now realise that breaking up was a good move. Worst case scenario: You can be seen as downright frightening and potentially dangerous. This could easily lead to an arrest and I don’t think I need to tell you what that will do for your chances.

4 – Turning Into A Slob

When you’re first reeling from the shock of a break up, it’s understandable that you might want to pig out and disregard your appearance. But if you look like a slob when you go out, that’s when you should start taking yourself in hand and start having some pride in your appearance again. After all, what if you bump into your ex when you were looking like something that the cat dragged in? Talk about embarrassment!

5- Text Message Terrorism

Constantly pestering your ex with texts and calls countless times a day could be deemed as a form of torture. This is not the look you are going for. This only annoys your ex to the point where he or she will try to avoid you as much as possible.

6 - Isolating Yourself From People

The easiest thing to do after a break up is to feel sorry for ourselves. All we want to do is to lock ourselves in at home, crawl under the covers and sulk in our misery. And naturally, we want the whole world to know about our pain and to grieve with us. If you catch yourself doing this – STOP. Your sufferings are not going to change the situation at all. Nor is your depression and misery attractive to your ex. At best, they might feel a little sorry for you. Sad to say, pity and love do not mix.

7 – Making Your Ex Jealous

This is the most common mistake most people make. We are wrongfully led to believe that if we make our ex jealous, they will change their mind and magically come running back to us. Here is why this tactic almost never works… basically, your ex will see this as your desire to ‘get even’ (which makes you look vindictive and small-minded) or an attempt to manipulate them into getting back by using jealousy (which makes you look desperate and pathetic). As you can see, none of these possibilities makes your ex want to get back with you.

There are however many things that you can do to increase your chances of getting your ex back.

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Take a bit of advice and spend some time getting yourself in the right frame of mind to move forward with your plan. If you are in control of your emotions, you stand a greater chance to get your ex back eventually.

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Getting your ex back should be your choice, and not left to fate.